Hey i was looking into someones profile and it got me thinking. Do people really care what race thier partner is? I dont. I noticed that some people put the race of the person they are looking for and i thought WoW, if i meet all the other standards i cant even let this person know i'm interested because she is not interested in dating someone me race. Hmmm. Please give me your feedback on this I just have to know if it really matters. You know, I have to admit I can see or meet a woman that I am totally into but I would be so intimidated because I wouldnt know if she would date my race. What are your thoughts on that.
Hey i was looking into someones profile and it got me thinking. Do people really care what race thier partner is? I dont. I noticed that some people put the race of the person they are looking for and i thought WoW, if i meet all the other standards i cant even let this person know i'm interested because she is not interested in dating someone me race. Hmmm. Please give me your feedback on this I just have to know if it really matters. You know, I have to admit I can see or meet a woman that I am totally into but I would be so intimidated because I wouldnt know if she would date my race. What are your thoughts on that.
Some would argue that though it may not be pc to say you will find some cultural differences with in one general culture that is based on race.
So basically dating someone from a different culture and/or race is going to have some unique issues that will vary in severity depending on each case.
For instance here in the US if a white girl, we will call her jane, dates a boy called robert from school who happens to just be slightly darker skinned her parents may not notice or care compared to if she came home with robert's brother Juan who is trully sporting the chicano look. Yet still they may choose Juan over her next new love interest who is black, has dreed locks,and is female... haha, I digress...
still point being there are many many different degrees of acceptibility for your self and for the people around you. Each situation will find yourself in a a different set of issues.
Cultural and/or Racial differences are just more stuff to deal with but shouldn't get in the way of finding out if this person that you feel a special spark with might be a good match for you. If nothing else think of all the interesting things you will learn...
Or in Aussies case... well what doesn't kill ya... hurts a hell of a lot but doesn't kill ya. And heck the story has touched and helped so many people. a weaker woman wouldn't have made it through that.
Some would argue that though it may not be pc to say you will find some cultural differences with in one general culture that is based on race.
So basically dating someone from a different culture and/or race is going to have some unique issues that will vary in severity depending on each case.
For instance here in the US if a white girl, we will call her jane, dates a boy called robert from school who happens to just be slightly darker skinned her parents may not notice or care compared to if she came home with robert's brother Juan who is trully sporting the chicano look. Yet still they may choose Juan over her next new love interest who is black, has dreed locks,and is female... haha, I digress...
still point being there are many many different degrees of acceptibility for your self and for the people around you. Each situation will find yourself in a a different set of issues.
Cultural and/or Racial differences are just more stuff to deal with but shouldn't get in the way of finding out if this person that you feel a special spark with might be a good match for you. If nothing else think of all the interesting things you will learn...
Or in Aussies case... well what doesn't kill ya... hurts a hell of a lot but doesn't kill ya. And heck the story has touched and helped so many people. a weaker woman wouldn't have made it through that.
hey dating other race is always fun as there is an aliment of excitement ,the tingle ,something different.I think sexual chemistry has nothing to do with race.And they say opposite attracts!
hey dating other race is always fun as there is an aliment of excitement ,the tingle ,something different.I think sexual chemistry has nothing to do with race.And they say opposite attracts!
hey dating other race is always fun as there is an aliment of excitement ,the tingle ,something different.I think sexual chemistry has nothing to do with race.And they say opposite attracts!
hey dating other race is always fun as there is an aliment of excitement ,the tingle ,something different.I think sexual chemistry has nothing to do with race.And they say opposite attracts!
Well I'm pretty mixed up being of black, hispanic and indian heritage. I've dated both within and without my races. I've had both good and bad experiences in dating but it would be unfair to disqualify a race because of a bad experience. It would be comparable to deciding to try lesbianism because the man you were dating was a pig. What if your girlfriend treats you wrong? What do you do, turn to beastiality? LOL, come on.
Well I'm pretty mixed up being of black, hispanic and indian heritage. I've dated both within and without my races. I've had both good and bad experiences in dating but it would be unfair to disqualify a race because of a bad experience. It would be comparable to deciding to try lesbianism because the man you were dating was a pig. What if your girlfriend treats you wrong? What do you do, turn to beastiality? LOL, come on.
Aussie I agree on some points. There is a big difference in inter racial and inter cultural. But, how do you tell the difference? Not by looks, cause that of course would be prejudice. All im saying is that you never know someone untill you know them dont let bad experiences stop you from interacting with a race or culture. But your right the some police do treat people different? I should know.
Aussie I agree on some points. There is a big difference in inter racial and inter cultural. But, how do you tell the difference? Not by looks, cause that of course would be prejudice. All im saying is that you never know someone untill you know them dont let bad experiences stop you from interacting with a race or culture. But your right the some police do treat people different? I should know.
You are what you are and if the person you are interested in can't accept you for you then... pfft... who needs them! I've learnt this in a round about way... I'm mixed race (Aboriginal) and I was only interested in having anything to do with were white men... *blagh* wrong... I met some amazing men of different races who totally rocked my world... it should all just come down to how well you two connect, with the right connection and a dash of attraction... amazing stuff can happen...
You are what you are and if the person you are interested in can't accept you for you then... pfft... who needs them! I've learnt this in a round about way... I'm mixed race (Aboriginal) and I was only interested in having anything to do with were white men... *blagh* wrong... I met some amazing men of different races who totally rocked my world... it should all just come down to how well you two connect, with the right connection and a dash of attraction... amazing stuff can happen...
I can give you an example if we can once again put up with me adding my 2 cents worth...
2 people of different cultures meet, end up together and eventually become engaged. Man beats woman for 3 years often attempting to kill her. When woman finally gets the strength to leave and take him to court he gets away with this (He does 49 days in jail, 35 of which are for assaulting a police officer).
Why??
Because in his culture men were considered the dominant partner. His culture turned a blind eye to how men chose to remind their women of that.
Because in his culture men who have not been through a traditional 'Initiation into Manhood' Ceremony can not be considered responsible for their actions (He was 27 at the time).
Because the poor thing was struggling to find his identity caught between a traditional life and the life he found in an urban area (He had never lived in his traditional lands, the reason he had never had the intitiation ceremony)
Then his community banded behind him using intimidation as a weapon against the woman.
This is just an example of how dating in different cultures can be. Some cultures have beliefs that clash to the point where it becomes impossible for two people to sustain a relationship.
So there is a huge difference between inter racial and inter cultural.
I can give you an example if we can once again put up with me adding my 2 cents worth...
2 people of different cultures meet, end up together and eventually become engaged. Man beats woman for 3 years often attempting to kill her. When woman finally gets the strength to leave and take him to court he gets away with this (He does 49 days in jail, 35 of which are for assaulting a police officer).
Why??
Because in his culture men were considered the dominant partner. His culture turned a blind eye to how men chose to remind their women of that.
Because in his culture men who have not been through a traditional 'Initiation into Manhood' Ceremony can not be considered responsible for their actions (He was 27 at the time).
Because the poor thing was struggling to find his identity caught between a traditional life and the life he found in an urban area (He had never lived in his traditional lands, the reason he had never had the intitiation ceremony)
Then his community banded behind him using intimidation as a weapon against the woman.
This is just an example of how dating in different cultures can be. Some cultures have beliefs that clash to the point where it becomes impossible for two people to sustain a relationship.
So there is a huge difference between inter racial and inter cultural.
Thanks for the difference of opinion butterfly, but I seem to think that when people look for certain qualities in a person that those qualities are in the inside and that skin color shouldn't dictate how you think someone will treat you. But this is just my opinion. Also if someone of one race treats you bad i think its nieve to think someone of that same race would treat you the same. Again just my opinion. What does everyone else think?
Thanks for the difference of opinion butterfly, but I seem to think that when people look for certain qualities in a person that those qualities are in the inside and that skin color shouldn't dictate how you think someone will treat you. But this is just my opinion. Also if someone of one race treats you bad i think its nieve to think someone of that same race would treat you the same. Again just my opinion. What does everyone else think?
I think people have preferences that should be respected. If one limit themself to any specification it maybe due to bad experiences or maybe trying out a different lifestyle. It does not necessarily means that that person is prejudice or have racial issue. It is innert that people sterotype. Some thinks that they cannot be with someone who is goofy or noisy. Some people think that being "hot and sexy" is all that good. Some people think that they cannot see themselves dating somebody ordinary. It all boils down to what people think would compliment their needs or wants but its not all that bad. You just have to find that person who would want you and need you. Someone who would compliment you and feels good to be with you. Race won't be an issue if you find that person who you connect with. Also, there is nothing constant in this world except "change." Those people that have limited themselves to a certain race or wants may change in time. I know somebody who limited her specification to "hot and sexy" guys but ended marrying an older and chubby person. But she is overwhelmingly happy with him because she is pampered with attention and thoughtfullness...love...and most of all he doesn't have selective memory like most men have after 13 years of being married. In short, she did not really got what she wants but she realized that she got what she really needs. So don't get offended if somebody limits their profile with race and other stuff. You wouldn't really know what they really want until you chat with them. Heck...you might even realize you don't really want to talk to them either. The worst thing that could happen is when they don't reply to you. Goodluck.
I think people have preferences that should be respected. If one limit themself to any specification it maybe due to bad experiences or maybe trying out a different lifestyle. It does not necessarily means that that person is prejudice or have racial issue. It is innert that people sterotype. Some thinks that they cannot be with someone who is goofy or noisy. Some people think that being "hot and sexy" is all that good. Some people think that they cannot see themselves dating somebody ordinary. It all boils down to what people think would compliment their needs or wants but its not all that bad. You just have to find that person who would want you and need you. Someone who would compliment you and feels good to be with you. Race won't be an issue if you find that person who you connect with. Also, there is nothing constant in this world except "change." Those people that have limited themselves to a certain race or wants may change in time. I know somebody who limited her specification to "hot and sexy" guys but ended marrying an older and chubby person. But she is overwhelmingly happy with him because she is pampered with attention and thoughtfullness...love...and most of all he doesn't have selective memory like most men have after 13 years of being married. In short, she did not really got what she wants but she realized that she got what she really needs. So don't get offended if somebody limits their profile with race and other stuff. You wouldn't really know what they really want until you chat with them. Heck...you might even realize you don't really want to talk to them either. The worst thing that could happen is when they don't reply to you. Goodluck.
well remeber there is many races.. and if they want to date canine, feline, bovine they can .. but there is only one human race... so the thing is this because someone is of of another culture will that disqualify most of the people seeking to date others.. the answer is yes and no. some do see it as a need, but a truely open minded person will see it as a mere annoyance. love is love, friendship is fiendship.
well remeber there is many races.. and if they want to date canine, feline, bovine they can .. but there is only one human race... so the thing is this because someone is of of another culture will that disqualify most of the people seeking to date others.. the answer is yes and no. some do see it as a need, but a truely open minded person will see it as a mere annoyance. love is love, friendship is fiendship.
I thought that the profiles looked to generic so I did scale mine down. Well as we all know I am a bit iffy about interCULTURAL more than interacial dating due to a bad experience. However my latest guy is of another culture and it isn't an issue. I think sometimes it just pays to jump in. I chat to anyone, my profile is the way it is more because it HAS to be filled out than anything else.
If I may add my 2 cents worth....
I thought that the profiles looked to generic so I did scale mine down. Well as we all know I am a bit iffy about interCULTURAL more than interacial dating due to a bad experience. However my latest guy is of another culture and it isn't an issue. I think sometimes it just pays to jump in. I chat to anyone, my profile is the way it is more because it HAS to be filled out than anything else.
Hi mtown, race has never been an issue for me. It's hard enough today to find someone with whom you are truly compatible, throw race into the mix and you greatly limit yourself. It would indeed be unfortunate to let race dictate your chances of happiness in a relationship. Ultimately my motto is "live and let live" so I respect any preferences that others may have but personally I believe that love should be color blind.
Hi mtown, race has never been an issue for me. It's hard enough today to find someone with whom you are truly compatible, throw race into the mix and you greatly limit yourself. It would indeed be unfortunate to let race dictate your chances of happiness in a relationship. Ultimately my motto is "live and let live" so I respect any preferences that others may have but personally I believe that love should be color blind.
